Wild and Free

  I will not tame you. I will not demand, day after day and year after year, that you must be good, that you must act nice, that you must please everyone else so that everyone else but you is made to feel comfortable. I will not shield your eyes from everything ruthless in this...

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Have Kids, Will Travel

I am completely aware that a vacation with kids is not even remotely the same as a vacation without kids (this is the whole vacation versus trip debate). To me, this is not something that needs to be acknowledged, though, because there is nothing that...

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A Letter to the Eldest on His Birthday

My Dear Boy, When we had you, we didn't know there would be others. We hoped, but we weren't sure. Two years later, your sister showed up and rocked our world. You were just a little guy then, but it was the middle of winter and...

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As Sacred As Ever

Introduction Are some of you a little sick of all of the marriage stuff? Of all of the rainbow pictures? I can understand that. However, I also can understand what it might have felt like if I had been told for most of my life that...

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To Those Who Show Up and Give Love

Happy Father's Day to all of those who dad up, who do the work, who cut their kids' food, who change diapers, who rock and rock and rock their babies,   who take the time to explain and to listen, who relate to their sons' and daughters' interests...

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