naptime

Nap Time

I wait for nap time
like I used to wait
for a Friday night.
Like some wait
for cocktail hour
each night.
Like others wait
for time to take
a long run
any night.

Fed Ex Man,
Tree Trimming Person,
Sweet Little Neighbor Girl Who’d Like To Play In My House,
Mother-In-Law,

It Is Nap Time.
I’ve been waiting
for the clock
to hit this hour
since I heard my name being called
before the sun came up
this morning,
since I went to bed
long, long after the sun went down
last night.

Nap time is my time
to do whatever it is that brings me sanity
so that we all make it
until the sun sets tonight.

It will be quiet.
It will be peaceful.
I will pretend that I am alone in my home,
if only for 20 minutes.

So long as you don’t ring my doorbell.
So long as you don’t put your truck in reverse with the beep-beep-beeping.
So long as you don’t keep talking and talking
while we are trying
to leave.

“Oh, you can skip his nap,”
says the mother of kids in school full day with her blown-out hair and clean t-shirt,
says the woman who’s had a full night’s sleep,
says the man who will lie on his couch after work tonight.
They are mistaking
my desperation
for
rigidity.

Will I forget?
Will I ask a new mother
to forgo her baby’s nap for me,
a grown adult,
so that we can visit?

For now, I stay huddled
with my fellow nap time
warriors
because they wait
each day
for nap time,
just like me.

 

11 Comments
  • Shelby
    Reply

    As a relatively new SAHM to my energetic 4 year old and 19 month old twins, this was the first truth I learned of staying home with my kids. Don’t f*ck with naptime. Period. Amen and hallelujah, sister.

    June 3, 2014 at 7:34 pm
    • Anne Flavin
      Reply

      Ha- that was my alternate title: Don’t F^c$ With Nap Time. Great minds (or really, really tired ones) think alike!

      June 3, 2014 at 8:18 pm
  • Anne Flavin
    Reply

    Ha- that was my alternate title: Don’t F^c$ With Nap Time. Great minds (or really, really tired ones) think alike!

    June 3, 2014 at 8:17 pm
  • I guard it like gold in my house! I’m a WAHM of a nearly 3 and 1 year old. And you write so beautifully.

    June 4, 2014 at 4:00 am
    • Anne Flavin
      Reply

      Thank you, Kate. If you’re working at home, then you know what I’m talking about for sure. If you’re on Facebook and you haven’t yet, I’d so appreciate if you’d like my Annie Flavin Facebook page. Thanks so much for reading and for commenting!

      June 4, 2014 at 7:39 pm
  • I remember counting down the minutes until morning nap time (9 am) during that first year and afternoon nap time (1 pm), too. The afternoon nap lasted three glorious hours and remained in place until he was five years old. I felt like I was re-born during those 180 minutes and understand the holiness of those precious, quiet, do-what-you-want (or don’t) nap times.

    And, yes, you can occasionally forget when you’re kids gets older. Not completely, but the urgency and sanctity of nap time becomes more of a concept than a reality. Life changes and somehow rested, coifed, well-meaning friends forget that feeling of exhaustion. The good news? It passes, but it will take some time.

    Until then, enjoy your quiet during nap time. Guard it. Fight for it. Hide from the world and recharge. Your kids are counting on it. xoxo

    June 4, 2014 at 3:31 pm
    • Anne Flavin
      Reply

      xoxo, Tammi. It’s when I text you :)

      June 4, 2014 at 7:40 pm
  • Angela
    Reply

    Oh nap time, glorious nap time!! (I’m reading this while she sleeps) Someone once asked me what I do if I’m not home at 1:00 for nap time and I replied "oh, we’re ALWAYS home for nap time….it’s a non-negotiable for her and for me"

    Loved this post. Love your writing!

    June 4, 2014 at 8:51 pm
  • Angela
    Reply

    Oh nap time, glorious nap time!! (I’m reading this while she sleeps) Someone once asked me what I do if I’m not home at 1:00 for nap time and I replied "oh, we’re ALWAYS home for nap time….it’s a non-negotiable for her and for me"

    Loved this post. Love your writing!

    Angela

    June 4, 2014 at 8:51 pm
  • Angela
    Reply

    Oh nap time, glorious nap time!! (I’m reading this while she sleeps) Someone once asked me what I do if I’m not home at 1:00 for nap time and I replied "oh, we’re ALWAYS home for nap time….it’s a non-negotiable for her and for me"

    Angela

    Loved this post. Love your writing!

    June 4, 2014 at 8:51 pm
  • Yes! Naptime is so sacred for us. My almost-4-year-old outgrew naps, but for my 1 year old that is OUR time to recharge, and rejuvenate. That’s the time when Dora gets turned on for the almost-4-year-old, the 1 year old blissfully sleeps, and all is well with the universe.

    :)

    June 11, 2014 at 2:22 am

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