“What Did You Learn at Preschool Today?”

  Since she began school in September, my daughter comes home each day with stories about her class time.  I noticed a theme begin to emerge: when I would ask what she learned at school, her answers were always in the negative.  And they sounded a...

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To Be Seen

  When I was a girl, and then yesterday, too, I used to pray, not for world peace or an end to poverty, but instead, to be seen. I would get found in a game of Hide and Go Seek because I would run out from my place of hiding when a car drove by, just in case that...

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When Coupling Is Hard

  I believe the third rail (if you're not a city person, that's the rail you don't want to touch) in the writing world is the honest discussion of marriage and of how having young children changes marriage (life gets real - real fast).  Petty grievances...

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The First Touch of Snow

  It all begins before we even know it has begun. The first flutter, the first kick, the first breath, the first cry, the first smile, the first step he takes when he doesn't reach back for my hand. They are not our possessions, you know. They are our companions with whom we get to experience all of our firsts again. This time around is...

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It Feels Like An Assault And It Is Love

  (Skip this intro if you follow me on Facebook). *** I come from a long-line of people who like their space.  My Grandma Anne, for whom I was named, was happy to see us when we arrived at her home and then waved excitedly at the door...

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This Is How It Happens

  This is how it happens as it does when the weather turns, when all of a sudden the leaves have changed color. Where did the green go? Here comes the snow. When all of a sudden the sleeping on your shoulder and the generosity of their words have been replaced by friend sleepovers and one-word answers. It changed while...

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Arc of Life, If You’re Lucky

Arc of Life, If You’re Lucky “Did you get what you wanted?” Age 3: “YES!  Exactly!  I LOVE IT SO MUCH!” Age 43: “I think so.  It’s all a lot harder than I thought, but we’re doing it.” Age 83: “YES!  It was work, and there were mistakes, but it all worked...

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Before You Give Them to the World

  My kids are doing fine with school.  I, however, am having a harder time.  In general, I’ve never been a very good rule follower.  As a child, I questioned and argued.  As a young adult, I went to law school, which is the place for...

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Pillow in the Car

I haven’t had a conversation of any substance with my husband for many days.  At night, we fall into our couch to watch a show, and then one by exhausted one, like drunken college coeds, we meander into our bedroom where we indiscriminately pop up...

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The Odd Couple

  Want to know why parenting more than one child is hard?  Because if you have more than one child, they probably aren’t going to be the same.  At all.  Because they are different people.  Isn’t that difficult?  The individuality?  The fact that their favorite meals...

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